Nell Dipiero: hmmm I think love marriage is better because its your choice your feelings of love I mean I really think it would be weird to marry someone I dont even know what if there rude or have really annoying habbits. I would prefer to choose for myself and know that I love evey single thing about the person that I choose to make that commitment to =)
Mahalia Brindle: i think u need to do what U think is right!-n what will make u b happy!-i kno many people that have gotten married b/c of love n broken up in 2 yrs...-i kno coples that were aranged n r happy?
Chris Rosenkranz: I believe in love because my parents had many things against them (big differences in age, education, social background) and they were happily together for nearly 30 years (until my father died, one of the disadvantages of a big age difference!).I come from a culture that doesn't believe in or support "arranged" marriages and I fully support the individual's right to choose. My husban! d and I freely fell in love and married.
Chris Coggins: It's only been in the last 100 years or so that we marry for love. Prior to that marriages were arranged or we married within our faith or community. Divorce was also not an option back then. So we don't know for sure if arranged marriages worked out better. Since love is an emotion and emotions change then in my opinion we need to make love a verb. Do something every day to let the person you are with know that you love them regardless of how you feel and hopefully they will do the same. "All You Need Is Love" by the Beatles comes to mind. The success of love is in the Loving....Show more
Zora Mazzie: Well, love is more the actions that you do consistently for the best interest of another person. It's not the frills, sex and excitement that people commonly mistake for love after having spent alot of time with a person and getting intimate. I don't believe in the commonly touted idea of love and marriage an! d for that matter I don't agree with arranged marriage either.! However, you can love someone you have an arranged marriage with and you can choose not to love someone you once said you loved in a love marriage. You need something deeper and higher in regards to one's opinion of love than the common human feelings that tend to be associated with it. Well, for most 18 year olds - an arranged marriage would probably be a better choice than the people you tend to pick at that age. When you have the excitement, energy and attraction within what is called falling in love and then follow that with a lifetime of consistent actions regardless of your changing feelings and attitudes - that is true love and I think it's the true love that lasts, not the frills and thrills. Once you get to the loving someone unconditional of your own feelings and life's ups and downs that's real love. The challenge is that until you have experienced it, you can't know that you have it. These people who say they fell out of love with their spouse after 30 years an! d 4 kids are completely deceiving themselves in believing that the frills and thrills are all that count but just wait until another 30 years pass and no one loves that person anymore not even their own children. Then they wise up but it is too late. There's no reason to marry without having the expectation that you are going to fulfill a lifetime of the actions that constitute love regardless of your changing feelings, physical abililty and everything else in life that changes. But, you can have true love within the confines of an arranged marriage or a "love" marriage if you have the right character. The feelings associated with the excitement and great sex that can occur - happen more powerfully once you get to that unconditionally loving another person. They become great by products - not the whole of the relationship....Show more
Reginald Maxi: if you see stats arrange marriages lasts longer, but what the hell i think have fun, don't decide either, try dating, if! that doesn't work out, arrange marriage is always there, if that doesn! t work out, then just keep rocking, you know, back and forth... take it eazy
Lahoma Beadell: arrange marriage is pointless because how are you going to promise to be with a person for the rest of your life when you don't even know them? the chances of you being really compatible to the point were your marriage will actually be a happy one is very slim. being in love helps a marriage cause that love is what's gonna help you work through your problems with your partner. love gives you a connection that arranged marriages could never give you
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